Wednesday, August 25, 2010

the young and infertile

I am a member of the RESOLVE online support groups. I gather that many women under 30 feel separate not only from their more fertile peers but often the other women in the infertile community. I often see posts asking if there is anyone else in their 20's going through this. For many of us in our 20's infertility is a slap in the face, this is supposed to be my most fertile time of life. And then when one finds they have to realign their expectations many start looking for books or websites of women who have had similar experiences.

There are books and websites, the problem is that most of these infertility books and websites virtually ignore women in their 20's. Sure, many of the feelings and experiences will be similar to those of women in their late 30's and 40's but many of our emotions and experiences will be different as well. Where is the support system for the women in their peak fertile years?

Monday, August 2, 2010


I started reading the Infertility Survival Guide over the weekend, so far I have mixed feelings about it. One thing that has really stuck with me though is the repeated sentiment of frustration to people telling you to "just relax." This has been something that has often been repeated to me by loving and concerned family members. I try to explain that I do try to relax. There is only so much relaxation I can achieve though, and things that are holding me back are often not related to infertility. School and work are just as much to blame for non-zen feelings as infertility. I liked that this book pointed out that there is no medical backing to the "just relax" sentiment.

On a different note, has anyone ever tried alternative medicines in their infertility journey? Like acupuncture or yoga?